The Love Experience |

Newbie & Oldie Love

I remember when our marriage was brand new everything came so easy for us. The communication, romance, compromising and spending time together was easy to do. As time went on we learned that it did take work. That newbie love had worn off and that was when the oldie loved had to kick in. We figured out that our love or love itself was more than the word, an action, or feeling….It Was An Experience. A love experience. To fully understand it can not be taught. After writing a quick letter to my husband, I did not realize how much I have learned over the years.

My Mom, Dad or grandparents could not prepare me for marriage or love. I had to experience for myself. I have so much more learning to be taught and go through. But one person I heard say this: Do not get caught up in the dream or the thought of marriage (like what you see on television or social media). You can get caught up in the thought of marriage in your head and that can really mess up your thought process.

Now am sure I did not quote Erica Campbell, from the group Mary Mary exactly. Nevertheless, this stuck with me!

So I always keep this in the back of my mind, always!

Anniversaries, birthdays and holidays do not have to be all romantic, mind-blowing and out of this world every single time. Learning that helped me not to get caught up on what I thought I should be doing on those days.

Just chilling at home watching Netflix is a blessing if you think about it.

Really!

Your bills are paid to watch television, your off work (LOL!) and your sitting at home with someone you love.

It does not have to be a steak dinner at Ruth Chris or Red Barn. Or an elaborate trip.

Many people do not have the gift of love in their lives so when you find it or have it just hold on to it. Don’t ruin it by these thoughts or expectations in your head.

Here is the letter I shared with my hubby, experience of LOVE.

There is something about that New, New Love. The feeling of flutters in your stomach and dying to see or talk to each other again. When you just talked or seen each other.

There is something about that Excitement Love. Experiencing everything for the first time together. Purchasing a new house, renting an apartment, having a baby and list goes on.

There is something about that Struggle Love. When we ride out those tough times and never give up each other.

There is something about that Ugly Love. When you know we are tore up from the floor up, morning breath and all.

There is something about that I am Worried Love. When you go to the doctor with your spouse, your waiting for that phone call, at the doctor’s office or hospital for the results.

There is something about that working my Nerves Love. If your spouse does not pick up their mess, ONE MORE DANG TIME!!

There is something about that Forgiveness Love. When one of you may have spent a little too much money or did not check if the oil was low and ruin the engine.

There is something about that Faith Love. When one of you have lost all hope but the other will not let you give up on that grain of mustard seed.

There is something about that Grieving Love. Your not sure what to do for each other but to be there when the sun begins to shine again.

There is something about that love all your Flaws Love. No matter what size you are, go up or down in their weight, forgetting things or butchering the English language.

There is something about that Patience Love. You never give up on each other dreams, no matter how long it takes.

There is something about that Double-Take Love. When they walk across the room and look at them a couple of times and can not believe they belong to you.

There is something about that Lost Love. When you thought you were good a couple of hours or days without them and realize I just need to check in with them.

There is nothing like that Growing Together Love. That love that could feel like your growing apart but your growing up together.

There is nothing like that Time Flying By Love. When you are just trying to make it through the workday to work week. Getting the kids all together and try not to forget how you started out together.

There is nothing that Self-Improvement Love. When they help you to become better and greater to reach higher goals.

There is nothing like that Tripping Love. You know he ain’t going nowhere and you are not either. So stop tripping!

There is nothing like that Run Home Love. When you run home and you know they are doing nothing anyway or they walk through the door and it never gets old. The excitement is still there!

There is nothing like the Oldie, Oldie Love. Everything may have been a minute but it always feels brand new again.

There is nothing like that Sacrifice Love. You give up something big, but so did they. You just stop keeping score altogether.

There is nothing like that so Different Love. I dislike working out, you think crafting is boring but somehow our differences hold each other’s interests.

In spite of it all LOVE is more than a Word, Expression, Thought, Feeling or Act. LOVE is an experience that is a blessing and a gift. I know you probably will not see this unless I show you. But that is why I love you. I am extra and you are not! But, you like it though….admit or not. LOL!

Happy 13th Anniversary!